Raising a mentally strong child doesn’t mean that they are invincible, don’t feel pain or cry. It will give your child the ability to manage conflict and overcome hardships – but it also won’t cause him to suppress his emotions.
But in order to achieve this, we need to look within ourselves.
I am talking to all the moms and dads out there. We, as adults, parents, moms and dads, owe it to our children to strike out the following unhealthy parenting habits:
1.Making children the centre of your universe
Whilst this sounds nice, it is actually doing your child a disservice. treating children like this will result in them growing up thinking you should be at their every beck and call.
2. Denying that pain exists
Shielding a child from pain is not any way to raise a child. The world is a dark and harmful place and your child needs to be able to handle that. It is apart of reality and sheltering and trying to protect them from it, will only do them harm as they wont know how to handle things like deaths and breakups.
3. Badmouthing another parent or step parent
When another woman or man comes into your child’s life and becomes or represents a step parent figure, it is important to remember that your child’s feelings com first in this situation. Badmouthing the other parent or step parent could be detrimental to your relationship. Especially if the child is close to that person as it will only result in them becoming more distant towards you. Try and be more supportive of the relationship to ensure your child knows they can trust you. This creates mental strength as they aren’t constantly thinking negative thoughts to themselves and worrying why you don’t like them
4. Preventing children from making mistakes
5. Don’t confuse discipline with punishment